She

There is a woman, 51 years old, who divorced around 18 years ago.

One day she suddenly told me what kind of person her first husband was. He was a man who knew how to protect and treat women and of course he was good looking too.

Then I asked her “Really? Well I guess your bf is like that too (?)”. “Nah... he isn’t. He is the opposite. Let’s say on a bus there’s a rude guy trying to insult me. My bf would grab me to escape rather than stand up for me. Unlike my former husband who would protect me.” She explained. “But.... your former husband betrayed you and even stole all of your money for gambling in the end.” I was confused. “That’s true... but if I could go back I would still choose him to be my love and the only one.” She answered.

After hearing her out, I was like “WTF!”. You know it’s incomprehensible or impossible that you can say this. 

However, today I kind of understand why.

Difficulties and misfortunes take turns to challenge a couple. If one of them gives up or neither of them can seek any way out, this is the end even though they loved each other during those years. I believe in her heart she kind of realized there was something she could do better or make things cool down. And after so many years all the rage and sadness has already been washed away. Now, only good memories and impressions of him remain.

I can feel that it’s one of the regrets of her (love) life through her facial expressions. And with experience, you finally know what kind of elements are important in your partner. For her, it’s security and care.

Human emotions are fascinating especially in relationships. Even though the endings might be miserable, you will find something valuable after some time.