【读者文摘】致所有经历异地恋或于复杂感情状况的你们

致所有经历异地恋或于复杂感情状况的你们：
 
最近看了一套电影 Dear John （分手信、最后一封情书），很想更大家分享。如果你们是正在经历异地恋，或有与电影情节相似的经历，我是十分推荐你看，即使你没有，这电影也让你有另一番的体会，快要使人哭到欲哭无泪。
 
先简单的讲述一下故事，男主角John为美军特种部队，在假期回家时遇上仍在求学的女主角Savannah，像一般的爱情故事，他们很快便恋上了。但又与平凡的爱情不一样，热恋期的他们需要分隔两地一年，没有手机，男方不可告知所在地，可以维系这段的只有书信来往。他们都以为一年后，男方会退役，可是，好景不常，911发生了，他需延长服役。女方最后等不到他，以一封信与仍在战场的John分手，并说已经订婚了。
 
分隔两地，为一段关系带来许多挑战，时差使两人的沟通时间减短，距离使两人无法面对面向对方表达爱意。不论你有多想念对方，多想见见他一面，哪怕只有一小时，只见一面也不能的时候，这微小的要求变成了一个愿望，变成了一个梦。或许你会开始觉得失落，觉得寂寞空虚。你睡觉时，他在工作，他睡觉时，你便工作。
 
这片中的情侣便遇到更多的困难，John需上战场，Savannah把青春作这段关系的赌注，可以是John安全归来，一起有个Happy ending，也可以是John战死沙场，她只剩一人。我看完这电影后，我便想是否因为Savannah太寂寞了，所以她决定要离开John？还是因为她对这段关系信心不够？她觉得太困难了？
 
或许有时女孩需要的东西很简单，便是一种安全感。
 
我理解她的难处和矛盾，明明深爱著对方，但最终也作出了一个决定-离开-。
我想与正在处于异地恋／跟与John和Savannah有相似情况的你们说：你们既然选择了这样谈恋爱，便应一早有心理准备会出现种种的难关，你们是需要比普通情侣投放更多努力与爱去维系彼此的关系。或许你会有很多想法出现让你质疑这段关系，怀疑对方，开始出现不信任，让关系变得更困难。
 
但听我说一句⋯⋯「两人真挚的爱会胜过距离，彼此的信心会把你们拉得更近」。只要你是心爱对方，愿意打开心扉把日常生活大大小小的事都分享，距离不会把你们分开，反而让你们更深爱著对方，更期待下一次的见面，更珍惜彼此的相遇，大家的关系和拥有的时间，使关系更坚固。
 
我记得有一天，C先生跟我说：「有时候，很想念你，在想为什么我们要分隔这么远，我会想你到底在世界的另一端在做什么，是在睡觉还是在工作。」即使我们相隔了7000多哩，谢谢你从来没有让我觉得我们的爱情有距离，就让这个寂寂无名的地方，记录下我们的爱情。

2019年7月15日 11:38PM

 
To those who are in a long distance relationship or in a complicated relationship:

I watched a movie called "Dear John" recently and it is highly recommended to someone who is having a similar kind of relationship to watch it. Even though you don't, it's worth watching, you will learn A LOT, but be sure to have tissue ready, it will make you cry until the end of the movie.

To begin with, it is a movie about a love story between an U.S special forces soldier who is named John and a college girl- Savannah. It's like a typical love story, they fell in love with each other so fast. At the same time, unlike the common couple relationship, they needed to be apart for a year. No phone, John can't tell her where he would be sent. They thought after a year, they could be together. However, 911 happened and John had to extend service in the army. Eventually, Savannah gave up on the relationship and sent him the last letter to tell him that she couldn't wait and already got engaged to someone.

\Long distance relationships are a challenge to any couple. Time zone difference shortens the time they can communicate, distance makes it difficult for them to express their love face to face. No matter how much you miss her/him, how much you just wish to meet him/her for an hour, the little request becomes a wish, become a dream. You may start feeling disappointed, lonely. When you sleep, he works, when he sleeps and you work.

There were more obstacles for John and Savannah. John needed to be at the war, Savannah bet her youth and time on the relationship. Either John could come back safely and then happily ever after together or John dies and then she would be alone. After I watched the movie, I have been thinking about the reasons why she ended the relationship. Was she too lonely? Did she have not enough confidence in the relationship? Did she think it's too difficult? 

Maybe sometimes what girls really want is simple---- feeling secure.

I totally understand her situation, she definitely loved him, but she decided to leave. I would like to share with all of you who are in a long distance relationship: If you decide to have a long distance relationship, you will need to be prepared to know that it could be difficult. You will have to put more effort into the relationship to maintain it. You may come up with many thoughts to question the relationship or your significant others. Distrust appears then the relationship becomes more difficult.

But really.. listen... "True love can overcome the distance, unbreakable faith can bring you two even closer." If you are truly in love with someone and willing to share all of your things to him/her, distance won't tear you guys apart but bring you two even closer instead, love each other even more, more looking forward to seeing each other again, cherish the meet, the time and the relationship. It strengths it and makes it more stable.

I still remember, one day Mr.C told me that he always thinks about what am I doing when he's missing me so much, am I working or sleeping on the other side of the world.
Thank you for everything and I never feel that we are being apart from each other more than 7000miles. There isn’t distance in our relationship. Let this quiet place to record down our love story. I love you so much.

15th July 2019 11:38PM